Another 2 signs that you have the wrong people in your life.

5.They have lied to you more than once.

Love is a verb, not a noun. It is ACTIVE in all relationships.

Love is not just feelings of passion and romance between lovers; it is also a behavior among friends and family.

If someone lies to you, they are unlovingly disrespecting you and your relationship.

When you keep someone in your life who is a compulsive liar, and you keep giving them new chances to be trusted, you have a lot in common with this person – you’re both lying and being unloving to you!

Bottom line: Those who avoid the truth and tell you only what you want to hear do so for their own benefit, not yours. Don’t put up with it.

6.Their negativity is rubbing off on you.

The negative people in your life don’t just behave negatively towards you, but towards everyone they interact with.

What they say and do is a projection of their own reality – their own inner issues. Even if they say something to you that seems personal – even if they insult you directly – it likely has zero to do with you.

This is important to remember because what these negative people say and do shouldn’t be taken to heart. Although you don’t have control over what they say and do; you do have control over whether or not you allow them to say and do these things to you.

You alone can deny their venomous words and actions from invading your heart and mind. If you feel like these people are getting to you, take a break and give yourself some space to breathe.

Positive things happen when you distance yourself from negative people. Doing so doesn’t mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself.

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Last 3 tomorrow.

2 more signs that you have the wrong people in your life.

3. You feel trapped.

Healthy relationships keep the doors and windows wide open. Plenty of air is flowing and no one feels trapped.

Relationships thrive in this kind of unrestricted environment. You can come and go as you please, but you choose to stay because where you are is where you want to be.

If you want to be a part of someone’s life, all the open doors and windows in the world won’t make you leave.

If someone has closed them all in an effort to trap you into something you don’t want to be a part of, it’s time to find the strength to kick down the door.

4. They discredit your dreams and abilities.

If you allow others to define your dreams and abilities, then you enable them to hold you back.

What you’re capable of achieving is not a function of what other people think is possible for you. What you’re capable of achieving depends on what you choose to do with your time and energy.

People will throw all sorts of assumptions your way about what is possible and what is impossible.

Look beyond the presumptions and mental limitations of others, and connect with your own best vision of how YOUR life can be.

Life is an open-ended journey, and what you achieve comes from what you expect to achieve and what you work to achieve.

So don’t worry about what everyone else thinks. Keep living your truth. The only people that will get mad at you for doing so are those who want you to live a lie.

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9 Signs that you have the wrong people in your life!

A big part of who you become in life has to do with who you choose to surround yourself with.

Sometimes luck controls who walks into your life, but you decide who you let stay, who you pursue, and who you let walk back out.

Jim Rohn the famous motivational speaker said “You become the average of the 5 people that you spend most of your time with!”

Ultimately, you should surround yourself with people who make you a better person and let go of those who don’t. Here are some warning signs you’re in the presence of the latter:

1.They only make time for you when it’s convenient for them.

It’s obvious, but any relationship without regular interaction and communication is going to have problems, especially when there’s a lack of commitment.

Don’t waste your time with someone who only wants you around when it’s convenient for them. You shouldn’t have to force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they truly care about you they will gladly create space for you.

Being in a relationship with someone who overlooks your worth isn’t loyalty, its stupidity. Never beg someone for attention. Know your self-worth, and move on if you must.

2. They hold your past against you.

Some people will refuse to accept that you are no longer who you used to be – that you’ve made mistakes in the past, learned from them, and moved past them.

They may not be able to stand the fact that you’re growing and moving on with your life, and so they will try to drag your past to catch up with you.

Do not help them by acknowledging their negative behavior. Keep moving forward.

Holding on to the unchangeable past is a waste of energy and serves no purpose in creating a better day today.

If someone continuously judges you by your past and holds it against you, you might have to repair your future by leaving them behind.

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ABC of a productive life!

A. Avoid negative people, negative habits and negative sources of information.

B. Believe in yourself and your closest confidants.

C. Create a healthy balance between career, family and social responsibilities.

D. Do it now! Don’t put off to tomorrow what you can do today..

E. Enjoy yourself everyday. It’s quite possible there will be no tomorrow.

F. Find what you love and become an expert at it.

G. Go the extra mile. A little extra effort separates the good from the great.

H. Help others when given the chance.

I. Ignore insults, but take heed to constructive criticism.

J. Just do it. Action is the vehicle for success. Do It Now! DIN!

K. Kindness always trumps intelligence in the long-term.

L. Learn at least one practical lesson everyday.

M. Manage your time effectively by prioritising your obligations.

N. Never lie. Never cheat. Never steal.

O. Open your mind to fresh ideas and experiences.

P. Poor Planning Precedes Poor Performance

Q. Quitting is not an option. Don’t give up on something or someone you believe in.

R. Read as much as you can as often as you can.

S. Stop procrastinating. Stop ignoring unsettled problems.

T. Take responsibility for your actions, the good and the bad.

U. Use your natural talents to open new doors of opportunity.

V. Visualise your goals and map out an action plan for achieving them.

W. Write stuff down.

X. X-factors for success are always present. Keen awareness will uncover them.

Y. You will never succeed if you never try.

Z. Zero in on the truth by analysing situations from every possible angle.

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Score a goal!

16. Define one long-term goal and work on it for an hour every day.

If you walked into a railway station and said “Can I have a ticket please?” The first thing the ticket clerk would say to you is “Where to?”

So you need to know where you are going to begin with. I’m sure you have all set goals for this year because you all know that the most successful people all work towards achieving their goals.

Choose one of your goals and break it down into bite-sized pieces and focus on achieving each one piece at a time.

It really is all about taking baby steps, and taking the first step is often the hardest.

Spend an hour every day for the next 21 days working toward something you’ve always wanted to accomplish.

Take a small dream and make it a reality.

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Talk!

15. Have a conversation every day with someone you rarely speak to.

People are interesting creatures, and no two people are exactly alike.

Interacting with different people will open your mind to fascinating ideas and perspectives.

So for the next 21 days strike up a conversation daily with someone you rarely speak to, or someone you’ve never met before. Find out what makes them tick.

“The quality of your life is directly proportional to the quality of your relationships! The quality of you relationships is directly proportional to the quality of your communication!” Ash Lawrence..

So start improving your communication skills.

A great book to read is Dale Carnegie’s “How to win friends and influence people!”

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Let them go!

14. Let go of one relationship that constantly hurts you.

Keep people in your life who truly love you, motivate you, encourage you, enhance you, and make you happy.

If you know people who do none of these things, let them go and make room for new positive relationships.

Over the next 21 days, if relevant to your situation, gradually let go of one person in your life who has been continuously hurting you and holding you back.

Remember “You will become the average of the 5 people that you spend the most time with!” So if they are not positive happy people, the chances are neither will you be!

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Gossip!

The philosopher had just spent another hard day at the university asking lots of pertinent and challenging questions. On the way to his favourite restaurant for dinner, he was greeted by an acquaintance.

“Do you know what I just heard about your friend Jamie?”

“Just a moment,” said the philosopher. “Before listening to this I’d like to ask you a few questions.”
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“Huh?” said the acquaintance, who was eager to pass on the interesting piece of hot news.

“That’s right. Before you talk about my friend Jamie, it might be a good idea to just pause and consider what you are about to say. I call it the triple distillation test.

The first distillation test is through the filter of truth. Have you made absolutely certain what you are about to tell me is the truth?”
“Well….no, actually, you see I just heard about it, and thought, well, you know….

“All right,” said the philosopher. “So you have no idea whether the information is true or not. So let’s try the second distillation through the filter of goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?”

“No not at all, in fact—”

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“So,” interrupted the philosopher, “you wish to tell me something bad about my friend Jamie, but you’re not at all sure it’s true?”

“However, you may still pass this test, because there’s one more distillation process remaining, the filter of usefulness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend in any way useful to me?”

“Um. No. In fact, not in the slightest.”

“Fine,” said the philosopher. “If what you want to tell me is not true, good or useful, why do you wish to tell me at all?”

There are several good points to this story, not least the following:

• Personal and professional integrity are essential if a leader wants others to follow him or her freely and with commitment.
• In contexts where gossip, rumour and innuendo are rife, this could be a good story to challenge the culture.
• The wise person pays attention to the wider consequences rather than the immediate distractions.

So, in the future before you decide to participate in some office gossip, perhaps run the distillation test?

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Make 3 calls!

13. Have a conversation every day with someone you rarely speak to.

People are interesting creatures, and no two people are exactly alike. Interacting with different people will open your mind to fascinating ideas and perspectives. So for the next 21 days strike up a conversation daily with someone you rarely speak to, or someone you’ve never met before.

Find out what makes them tick.

Pick up the phone and make 3 calls to people you haven’t spoken to for a long time, old clients or someone you met at an ABC Meeting a while back.

Just see where the conversation goes, ask questions and be interested in what they have to say.

The journey could go something like this; Turn a stranger into a friend, turn a friend into a potential client, turn a potential client into a client and turn an old client into a client!

It’s just a conversation, but if you don’t start it, it won’t go anywhere!

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Face your fears!

12.Get uncomfortable and face a fear every day.

With a strategy of continuous small steps into uncomfortable territory we are often able to sidestep the biggest barrier to positive change:

Fear. Sometimes we’re afraid we’ll fail. Sometimes we’re subconsciously afraid we’ll succeed and then we’d have to deal with all the disruption (growth) and change that follows success. And other times it’s our fear of rejection or simply our fear of looking like a fool.

The best way to defeat fear is to stare it down. Connect to your fear, feel it in your body, realise it and steadily address it. Greet it by name if you have to: “Welcome, fear.‚Äù

Fear can be a guiding friend if you learn how to swallow it, and listen to it only when it serves its true purpose of warning you when you are in danger.

Spend an hour every day for the next 21 day’s addressing a fear that is holding you back.

And Remember that “Beyond your greatest fear, is your greatest achievement!”

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Junk cleanse!

11.Get rid of one thing a day for 21 days.

We have so much clutter surrounding us at any given moment (at the office, in our cars, in our homes) and we’ve become so accustomed to it that we no longer notice how it affects us.

If you start cleaning up some of this external clutter, a lot of internal clutter will disappear as well.

Choose one needless item each and every day and get rid of it. It’s that simple.

It might be difficult at first, so expect some resistance. But after some time you will begin to learn to let go of your pack-rat tendencies, and your mind will thank you for your efforts.

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Happiness is a daily choice!

Might seem crazy what I’m about to say!

Everybody experiences difficulties and disappointment in their life! It’s how we choose to deal with it that makes the difference between being happy or not…

Us psychologists believe that you can choose to be happy despite what’s going on around you.

Try this little experiment….

Close your eyes and think of a song that makes you feel sad. Get into the song and experience the emotion.

Now keeping your eyes closed think of a happy song, and again get into that song and experience the emotion.

So did your mood lift with the happy song?

A little effort can go a long way in increasing happiness. Two small experimental studies, published this year in the Journal of Positive Psychology, found that simply trying to be happier could actually elevate mood and well-being. In one study, two groups of students listened to “happy” music — one group was instructed to make a concerted effort to feel happier, while the other group was instructed not to actively try to lift their mood. The group that tried to feel happy experienced the most elevated moods after listening to the music.

Make happiness your number-one goal.

People who are happy choose to make happiness among their top goals in life, according to psychologist Tom G. Stevens, Ph.D., author of You Can Choose to Be Happy.

“Choose to take advantage of opportunities to learn how to be happy,” Stevens said “For example, reprogram your beliefs and values. Learn good self-management skills, good interpersonal skills, and good career-related skills. Choose to be in environments and around people that increase your probability of happiness. The people who become the happiest and grow the most are those who also make truth and their own personal growth primary values.”

Remember life is about sow and reap! You can’t plant bananas and pick cucumbers!

Start feeling happier here!

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