5 Things you will regret in 10 years!

1- Wearing a mask to impress others.

If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it. Because when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really are. So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you. You don’t have to be perfect to impress and inspire people. Let them be impressed and inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.

2- Letting someone else create your dreams for you.

The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are; the second greatest is being happy with what you find. A big part of this is your decision to stay true to your own goals and dreams. Do you have people who disagree with you? Good. It means you’re standing your ground and walking your own path. Sometimes you’ll do things considered crazy by others, but when you catch yourself excitedly losing track of time, that’s when you’ll know you’re doing the right thing.

3- Keeping negative company.

Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you. Don’t let them get to you. They can’t pull the trigger if you don’t hand them the gun. When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation, you free yourself to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety.

4- Being selfish and egotistical.

A life filled with loving deeds and good character is the best tombstone. Those who you inspired and shared your love with will remember how you made them feel long after your time has expired. So carve your name on hearts, not stone. What you have done for yourself alone dies with you; what you have done for others and the world remains.

5- Avoiding change and growth.

If you want to know your past look into your present conditions. If you want to know your future look into your present actions. You must let go of the old to make way for the new; the old way is gone, never to come back. If you acknowledge this right now and take steps to address it, you will position yourself for lasting success.

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To do list with a difference!

1.Start spending time with the right people.

These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally.

2.Start facing your problems head on.

It isn’t your problems that define you, but how you react to them and recover from them. Problems will not disappear unless you take action. Do what you can, when you can, and acknowledge what you’ve done. It’s all about taking small steps in the right direction, inch by inch. These inches count, they add up to yards and miles in the long run.

3.Start focusing on the possibility of positive outcomes.

The mind must believe it CAN do something before it is capable of actually doing it. The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful. Listen to your self-talk and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Regardless of how a situation seems, focus on what you DO WANT to happen, and then take the next positive step forward. No, you can’t control everything that happens to you, but you can control how you react to things. Everyone’s life has positive and negative aspects – whether or not you’re happy and successful in the long run depends greatly on which aspects you focus on.

4.Start concentrating on the things you can control.

You can’t change everything, but you can always change something. Wasting your time, talent and emotional energy on things that are beyond your control is a recipe for frustration, misery and stagnation. Invest your energy in the things you can control, and act on them now.

5.Start taking full accountability for your own life.

Own your choices and mistakes, and be willing to take the necessary steps to improve upon them. Either you take accountability for your life or someone else will. And when they do, you’ll become a slave to their ideas and dreams instead of a pioneer of your own. You are the only one who can directly control the outcome of your life. And no, it won’t always be easy. Every person has a stack of obstacles in front of them. But you must take accountability for your situation and overcome these obstacles. Choosing not to is choosing a lifetime of mere existence.

So there it is… A positive to do list… Do It Now! DIN!

Last 2 things not to say!

7. “I missed my chance.‚Äù

Nothing is permanent in this crazy world, not even your mistakes, failures, or troubles. So laugh at the confusion, live consciously in the moment, and enjoy your life as it unfolds.

You might not be exactly where you had intended to go, but you are precisely where you need to be to take the next best step forward.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.‚Äù

This is your life; shape it, or someone else will try for you. Strength shows not only in the ability to hold on, but in the ability to start over when you must.

It is never too late to become what you might have been. Keep learning, adapting, and growing. You may not be there yet, but you are closer than you were yesterday.

8. “Never mind… it’s not important…‚Äù

A great deal of unhappiness comes into the world because of confusion, bewilderment, and things left unsaid.

Many times in life I’ve regretted the things I’ve said without thinking. But I’ve never regretted the things I said nearly as much as the words I’ve left unspoken.

Speak up. Don’t hide your thoughts and feelings, especially when you can make a difference.

Be brave. Say what needs to be said.

When you don’t communicate effectively with those around you, there’s a lot of important stuff that ends up not getting said and a lot of beautiful emotion that ends up not being felt.

There’s no greater sadness than holding on to the words you never had the courage to speak.

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2 more things not to say!

5. “I hate you.‚Äù

As Martin Luther King Jr. so profoundly said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.‚Äù

When we harbor feelings of hate, it eventually gets the best of us. Everything and everyone you hate rents permanent space in both your head and heart. So if you want to eliminate something or someone from your mind, don’t hate. Instead, disconnect yourself, move on, and don’t look back.

And remember that getting even doesn’t help you get ahead. You will never get ahead of anyone as long as you try to get even with them.

Sometimes we don’t forgive people because they deserve it; we forgive them because they need it, because we need it, and because we cannot move forward without it.

To forgive is to rediscover the inner peace and purpose that at first you thought someone took away when they betrayed you.

6. “I can’t.‚Äù

Yes you CAN!

Stop stressing over what could have been, because the chances are if it should have been, it would have been.

You may feel discouraged.

You may feel upset.

You may feel too old.

You may be sick.

You may be divorced.

You may be unemployed.

You may be financially strapped.

You may be… etc.

But you’re not dead – YOU ARE ALIVE. Your journey is far from over.

Forget about how you thought things were supposed to be. Just because some things didn’t work out as you had expected, or didn’t happen as fast as you thought they would, is no excuse to give up on yourself.

Time passes one way or the other. Do what you need to do so that, at the very least, you can look back someday and say, “I gave life my best shot.‚Äù

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Another 2 things successful people never say!

3. “They are probably right, so I must be wrong.‚Äù

Don’t allow others to confuse you.

Don’t let them convince your heart what is right for you. Your heart already knows. Listen to it.

Don’t let anyone dilute the power of your inner voice.

You’ve got to stand up for something specific, on your own two feet, or you will achieve nothing worthwhile in your own mind. Within you there is formidable and undeniable sense of purpose.

Happiness comes from making a solid and persistent connection to that purpose. When your intentions are supported by a “why‚Äù that has meaning, you will find the “how‚Äù to bring them to life.

Bottom line: What’s right for you may be wrong for others, and vice versa. The truth is that the world isn’t really as it is, but as we see it. And we all see it differently. So don’t be scared to step out of line.

It’s OK to go off the beaten path, as long as you know why going a different way is right for you.

Some people may resent the freedom that you create in your life when you choose to be true to yourself. If you come across these people, ignore them and carry on.

4. “This sucks.‚Äù

The worst obstacle in life is a bad attitude.

Remember, it’s not what happens to you, but how you respond to what happens to you. You can’t let one bad moment spoil a bunch of good ones.

Don’t let the silly little dramas of each day get you down. Smile, even when it feels like things are falling apart. Smiling doesn’t always mean you’re happy; sometimes it just means you’re strong.

Likewise, do not let the negative opinions of others derail you.

Throughout your life you will meet two kinds of people: those who are a drain on your energy and try to derail your dreams, and those who give you the energy to pursue your dreams.

Ignore the first kind and cherish the second. People that doubt, judge, and disrespect you are not worth your time and attention.

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8 Things successful people never say!

1. “My goals and dreams can wait.”

To accomplish great things, you must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe. Be a dreamer, a believer, and a courageous and cheerful thinker.

Be a positive motivator, a productive doer, and a go-getter who keeps her head in the clouds and her feet on the ground.

Let the spirit of passion and possibility ignite a fire within you to do something worthwhile today, and don’t forget to spread your enthusiasm to those around you.

There’s no excuse for being an amateur forever. Life is short. The day is rapidly approaching when the risk to remain stuck in your nest is far more detrimental than the risk it takes to fly. Fly! Spread your wings. Start now.

How sad it would be for you to grow old without ever seeing the beauty and strength of your full potential.

Be bold enough to use your voice, brave enough to listen to your heart, and strong enough to live the life you’ve always imagined.

And remember, people are going to talk regardless of what you do or how well you do it. So worry about yourself before you worry about what others think.

2. “I don’t have a choice.”

William James once said, “When you have a choice to make and you don’t make it, that in itself is a choice.” Nothing could be closer to the truth.

Ultimately, life has no meaning; you have a meaning and you bring it to life. It is a waste to always be questioning yourself when you are the answer.

Until you can look at yourself in the mirror and honestly say, “I have a choice. I am here now because of the choices I’ve made in the past,‚Äù you will never be able to say, “I choose differently.‚Äù

You’re choosing, all day, every day. If you’re struggling at a job you don’t love, look at it this way: you’re choosing to make a living to pay your mortgage, support your family, and fuel your dreams.

Don’t resist it; own it – that’s where your power is.

If you’re in a relationship that’s causing you pain, you’re choosing to be in it.

Maybe staying will lead to essential growth or a breakthrough or a deeper understanding of love. Or not. But you’re choosing to be in or out, right now. Whichever you choose, own it – that’s where your power is.

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Last 3 signs that you have the wrong people in your life!

7.They are excessively envious of what you have.

A little bit of envy is OK, but when someone is excessively envious of what you have, there’s a good chance what they really want is to take it from you.

Excessive envy doesn’t tell you how much someone admires you, it tells you how much they dislike themselves. If you can, try to help lift them up, but also be careful that they don’t pull you down.

Oftentimes no amount of love, or promises, or proof from you will ever be enough to make them feel better about themselves.

The broken pieces they carry, are pieces they must mend for themselves.

Happiness, after all, is an inside job.

8.They motivate you to be judgmental or hateful.

Truth be told, no human being is superior. No faith, race, size or shape is inferior. All collective judgments about others are wrong. Only judgmental hypocrites make them.

If you judge others by their skin color, their body size, and their outer beauty, you will miss EVERYTHING about who they really are.

It is amazing the quality of people you will learn about and meet in this world if you can simply get past the fact that lots of people are not dressing and living the way you do.

People who motivate you to judge or hate others are as bad as bad company gets. Avoid them at all costs.

9.They want you to be someone else.

Spend time with people who see you the way you are, and not as they wish to think you are.

Spend even more time with those who truly know about you, and who love and respect you anyway.

If someone expects you to be someone you’re not, take a step back.

It’s wiser to lose relationships over being who you are, than to keep them intact by acting like someone you’re not.

It’s easier to nurse a little heartache and meet someone new, than it is to piece together your own shattered identity.

It’s easier to fill an empty space within your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space within yourself where YOU used to be.

“You can’t find the light by looking in the dark!”

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Another 2 signs that you have the wrong people in your life.

5.They have lied to you more than once.

Love is a verb, not a noun. It is ACTIVE in all relationships.

Love is not just feelings of passion and romance between lovers; it is also a behavior among friends and family.

If someone lies to you, they are unlovingly disrespecting you and your relationship.

When you keep someone in your life who is a compulsive liar, and you keep giving them new chances to be trusted, you have a lot in common with this person – you’re both lying and being unloving to you!

Bottom line: Those who avoid the truth and tell you only what you want to hear do so for their own benefit, not yours. Don’t put up with it.

6.Their negativity is rubbing off on you.

The negative people in your life don’t just behave negatively towards you, but towards everyone they interact with.

What they say and do is a projection of their own reality – their own inner issues. Even if they say something to you that seems personal – even if they insult you directly – it likely has zero to do with you.

This is important to remember because what these negative people say and do shouldn’t be taken to heart. Although you don’t have control over what they say and do; you do have control over whether or not you allow them to say and do these things to you.

You alone can deny their venomous words and actions from invading your heart and mind. If you feel like these people are getting to you, take a break and give yourself some space to breathe.

Positive things happen when you distance yourself from negative people. Doing so doesn’t mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself.

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2 more signs that you have the wrong people in your life.

3. You feel trapped.

Healthy relationships keep the doors and windows wide open. Plenty of air is flowing and no one feels trapped.

Relationships thrive in this kind of unrestricted environment. You can come and go as you please, but you choose to stay because where you are is where you want to be.

If you want to be a part of someone’s life, all the open doors and windows in the world won’t make you leave.

If someone has closed them all in an effort to trap you into something you don’t want to be a part of, it’s time to find the strength to kick down the door.

4. They discredit your dreams and abilities.

If you allow others to define your dreams and abilities, then you enable them to hold you back.

What you’re capable of achieving is not a function of what other people think is possible for you. What you’re capable of achieving depends on what you choose to do with your time and energy.

People will throw all sorts of assumptions your way about what is possible and what is impossible.

Look beyond the presumptions and mental limitations of others, and connect with your own best vision of how YOUR life can be.

Life is an open-ended journey, and what you achieve comes from what you expect to achieve and what you work to achieve.

So don’t worry about what everyone else thinks. Keep living your truth. The only people that will get mad at you for doing so are those who want you to live a lie.

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9 Signs that you have the wrong people in your life!

A big part of who you become in life has to do with who you choose to surround yourself with.

Sometimes luck controls who walks into your life, but you decide who you let stay, who you pursue, and who you let walk back out.

Jim Rohn the famous motivational speaker said “You become the average of the 5 people that you spend most of your time with!”

Ultimately, you should surround yourself with people who make you a better person and let go of those who don’t. Here are some warning signs you’re in the presence of the latter:

1.They only make time for you when it’s convenient for them.

It’s obvious, but any relationship without regular interaction and communication is going to have problems, especially when there’s a lack of commitment.

Don’t waste your time with someone who only wants you around when it’s convenient for them. You shouldn’t have to force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they truly care about you they will gladly create space for you.

Being in a relationship with someone who overlooks your worth isn’t loyalty, its stupidity. Never beg someone for attention. Know your self-worth, and move on if you must.

2. They hold your past against you.

Some people will refuse to accept that you are no longer who you used to be – that you’ve made mistakes in the past, learned from them, and moved past them.

They may not be able to stand the fact that you’re growing and moving on with your life, and so they will try to drag your past to catch up with you.

Do not help them by acknowledging their negative behavior. Keep moving forward.

Holding on to the unchangeable past is a waste of energy and serves no purpose in creating a better day today.

If someone continuously judges you by your past and holds it against you, you might have to repair your future by leaving them behind.

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ABC of a productive life!

A. Avoid negative people, negative habits and negative sources of information.

B. Believe in yourself and your closest confidants.

C. Create a healthy balance between career, family and social responsibilities.

D. Do it now! Don’t put off to tomorrow what you can do today..

E. Enjoy yourself everyday. It’s quite possible there will be no tomorrow.

F. Find what you love and become an expert at it.

G. Go the extra mile. A little extra effort separates the good from the great.

H. Help others when given the chance.

I. Ignore insults, but take heed to constructive criticism.

J. Just do it. Action is the vehicle for success. Do It Now! DIN!

K. Kindness always trumps intelligence in the long-term.

L. Learn at least one practical lesson everyday.

M. Manage your time effectively by prioritising your obligations.

N. Never lie. Never cheat. Never steal.

O. Open your mind to fresh ideas and experiences.

P. Poor Planning Precedes Poor Performance

Q. Quitting is not an option. Don’t give up on something or someone you believe in.

R. Read as much as you can as often as you can.

S. Stop procrastinating. Stop ignoring unsettled problems.

T. Take responsibility for your actions, the good and the bad.

U. Use your natural talents to open new doors of opportunity.

V. Visualise your goals and map out an action plan for achieving them.

W. Write stuff down.

X. X-factors for success are always present. Keen awareness will uncover them.

Y. You will never succeed if you never try.

Z. Zero in on the truth by analysing situations from every possible angle.

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Score a goal!

16. Define one long-term goal and work on it for an hour every day.

If you walked into a railway station and said “Can I have a ticket please?” The first thing the ticket clerk would say to you is “Where to?”

So you need to know where you are going to begin with. I’m sure you have all set goals for this year because you all know that the most successful people all work towards achieving their goals.

Choose one of your goals and break it down into bite-sized pieces and focus on achieving each one piece at a time.

It really is all about taking baby steps, and taking the first step is often the hardest.

Spend an hour every day for the next 21 days working toward something you’ve always wanted to accomplish.

Take a small dream and make it a reality.

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