Step up your week!

Recently my book STUFF for Business has been selling very well and a lot of happy people that have bought it have asked me if I would do a regular blog with my favourite tips for business and life.

So for the next month I’ve decided to add a once a week blog with seven tips for that week. If you like it please let me know and if there is enough response I’ll keep it going after the month is up. Come on don’t be shy, let me know what you think, and remember, social media is about engagement!

Here we go then;

Monday… Stop expecting other people to agree with you. You deserve to be happy.  You deserveFollow your own path and stay true to your own purpose. to live a life you are excited about.  Don’t let the opinions of others make you forget that.  You are not in this world to live up to the expectations of others, and neither should you feel that others are here to live up to your expectations.  In fact, the more you approve of your own decisions in life, the less approval you need from everyone else. You have to be yourself, and follow your own intuition, however scary that may feel or prove to be.  Don’t compare yourself to others.  Don’t get discouraged by their progress or success.  Follow your own path and stay true to your own purpose.  Success is ultimately about spending your life happily in your own way.

Tuesday… Stop expecting them to suddenly change. If there’s a specific behaviour someone you care about has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t.  If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows how you feel and what you need them to do. For the most part though, you can’t change people and you shouldn’t try.  Either you accept who they are or you choose to live without them.  It might sound harsh, but it’s not.  When you try to change people, they often remain the same, but when you don’t try to change them – when you support them and allow them the freedom to be as they are – they will gradually change and in the most beautiful way.  Because what really changes is the way you see them.

Wednesday… Try one new thing every day. – Variety truly is the spice of life.  You can see or do something a million times, but you can only see or do it for the first time once.  As a result, first time experiences often leave reflective marks in our minds for the rest of our lives.  Make an effort to try something new every day for the next rest of the month.  It can be a whole new activity or just a small experience, such as talking to a stranger.  Once you get the ball rolling many of these new experiences will open doors to life changing opportunities.

When you wake up every day, you have two choices. You can either be positive or negative; an optimist or a pessimist. I choose to be an optimist. It's all a matter of perspective.Thursday… Concentrate on being positive at all times. – The real winners in life cultivate optimism.  They have the ability to manufacture their own happiness and inner drive.  No matter what the situation, the successful person will always find a way to put an optimistic spin on it.  They know that failure is only an opportunity to grow and learn a new lesson from life.  People who think optimistically see the world as a place packed with endless opportunities, especially in trying times.

Friday… Get uncomfortable and face a fear every day. – With a strategy of continuous small steps into uncomfortable territory we are often able to sidestep the biggest barrier to positive change:  Fear.  Sometimes we’re afraid that we will fail.  Sometimes we’re subconsciously afraid we’ll succeed and then we’d have to deal with all the disruption, growth and change that follows success.  Other times it’s our fear of rejection or simply our fear of looking like a idiot.  The best way to defeat fear is to face it.  Connect to your fear, feel it in your body, realise it and steadily address it. Greet it by name if you have to: “Welcome, fear.”  Fear can be a guiding friend if you learn how to swallow it, and listen to it only when it serves its true purpose of warning you when you are in danger.  Spend an hour every day for the next 7 days addressing a fear that is holding you back. Beyond your greatest fear you will find your greatest success.

Saturday…  Stop playing the blame game.– Either you own your present situation or it will own you.  Either you take responsibility for your life, or someone else will.  Blame is an excuse – it’s an easy way out of taking responsibility for your own outcomes.  It’s a lot easier to point a finger at someone or something else instead of looking within yourself.  Blame is not constructive; it does not help you or anyone else – nobody wins in the blame game.  The amount of energy and stress it takes to place blame elsewhere takes away from your power to move forward and find a real solution. It’s time to care more; it’s time to take more responsibility, it’s time to lead from within, it’s time for a change, it’s time to stop blaming others and grab life by the horns! No one is coming to save you so take responsibility for your results!

Sunday… Know what you know, what you don’t know and who knows what you don’t.
No one knows everything, so don’t come off as a know-it-all. Surround yourself with advisors and mentors who will nurture you to become a better leader and businessman. Find successful, knowledgeable individuals with whom you share common interests and mutual business goals that see value in working with you for the long-term.

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Partner in life, Partner in business!

In business with your life partner?couples2

Married couples in business together have extreme opinions when asked about it. It’s either the best thing that happened to them, or the worst. Very few couples, if any, are indifferent about running a business with their life partner.

Married couples have long established and run successful family businesses, one third of the fastest growing private companies in the UK were owned and operated by husband-and-wife teams.

The benefits are innumerable for those couples who can work closely together and share a passion for their business. In addition to having the opportunity to spend more time together, they also tend to enjoy peace and harmony in their personal lives as well.

This may not always be the case, however, for those who try to raise a family and run a business together. Both require a lot of tough decisions that ultimately might only highlight the differences between partners.

The couples that can’t work it out usually end up in a long-winded divorce, arguing about who did what in the business, and who deserves to get more. I’m sure we all know at least one or two people that have experienced this.

As a result, companies can be torn apart if the domestic relationship begins to fall apart. Misunderstandings at home can lead to trouble in the boardroom, eventually leading to a lack of harmony in the office, bad decisions, and a loss of business. Worst case scenario, because it’s often the single greatest asset in the marriage, the business becomes a pawn in the divorce settlement.

This doesn’t have to happen though. If you’ve been married or life partners for a while, you know that the relationship takes a lot of work and compromise. The same goes for good and prosperous business partnerships.

couples3What happens when a couple sees themselves heading down the divorce path, but truly want to save the marriage? One person will usually end up leaving the business to let the other run it. Only then, can they work on salvaging their marriage and actually succeed.

Being able to successfully work with your life partner depends on many factors. It’s not easy. If you do decide to do it, have a look at these 10 tips.

  • Same goals from the business. Successful partners are equally devoted to their business. Yes, one may appear to be the outward driver, but in reality, both partners are dedicating equal time and energy to growing their business. They feed each other power and energy in their own respective ways. But if one is constantly trying to grow the company, while the other is content with standing still, resentment and anger will build, and the marriage or business (or both) will fail. Just because you are committed to spending the rest of your lives together, it doesn’t mean you have the same goals or vision for your company. If one wants a lifestyle business, while the other wants to make the business scalable, you’ve got a huge problem. It’s impossible for a company to evolve when the visions are not aligned.
  • Divide the responsibilities. Separate your areas of responsibility and then let each other work without interfering. Much like at home or within a family, a division of labour in the office is the key to maintaining good working relationships, as well achieving your business goals.
  • Do what you are good at. Sometimes when a couple starts a business together, they end up in their respective roles whether they like it or not. If at some point one or both of the partners realise they are not suited for the position, the couple has to make a decision. Either switch roles, or step away. Staying in a role that is proving detrimental to the business will only hurt the business – and ultimately the marriage. It’s not easy to admit that you are not cut out to running a certain aspect of the company that you helped build. But if the goal is to build a successful business, you need to leave pride and ego out of the equation.
  • Respect each other. Have you ever come across a married couple that deeply respected each couples 5other in their business, but had zero respect for each other personally? What about vice versa? Probably not. Happily-married couples that start a business together usually end up respecting each other even more, or losing respect entirely. Personal and business respect go hand-in-hand for a married couple. Couples will likely lose respect for each other if they consistently disagree on how to run the business. An easy way to find out if a couple respects each other is to ask their employees. They are the first ones to sense it and can usually foresee if the couple will last. The sad part is a marriage that may have worked pre-business partnership, will likely fail once they lose respect for each other in business.
  • Leave the intimacy and issues at home. When you’re at home you wouldn’t expect your spouse or partner to talk with you as you would expect him or her to address others at a business meeting. The same goes for time spent in the office together. Public displays of affection, heated arguments or personal conversations can embarrass or alienate others. Worse, they can disrupt the smooth flow of business. That’s why it is important that you conduct yourselves in a professional manner anytime you’re on “company time.”
  • Keep business out of the bedroom. The same applies when you and your spouse or partner leave the office and return home. Although you may find that you are so busy all day long that you haven’t had much time to talk about business with your partner, it is important to set limits. To make a smooth transition from business to domestic partners, you can limit the time you take each day to catch up to half an hour or so after you leave the office, after which you agree not talk business again until you’re both back in the office.
  • Know how to shut off. Running a business is difficult and stressful enough. Add marriage to it?couples4 That’s quite the challenge. When a couple knows how to turn off the business switch and enjoy their personal lives, they are one step ahead of the game. Unfortunately, most couples that work together can’t shut it off. Their entire lives revolve around their business. In fact, the only moments where they really have time talk about their business issues are when they are eating dinner or lying in bed! The problem gets worse when one spouse wants to shut it off, and the other one can’t or won’t.
  • Get away with each other. A short break from work together can do wonders for both your relationship and the business. A getaway weekend can quickly remind you why you love being in business together.
  • Get away from each other. In addition to occasionally needing a break from the stress of the business; it can be just as healthy to take a break from each other. Couples who are not in business together are often separated everyday by the usual office hours and the extra time and distant of the commute. However, when you’re in business with your spouse or partner you can find yourselves together 24 hours a day for weeks on end. Give each other some space and breathing room by regularly engaging in personal interests and activities that belong only to you.
  • Protect your investment. If one of you suddenly dies or becomes disabled, are you prepared for the business or your lifestyle to continue? Unlike other business owners, since you are partners with your spouse your needs will be unique. Develop a contingency plan with the help of your lawyer, accountant and/or insurance broker that protects both of you in the event of death, divorce or other unforeseen events.

Running a business with your life partner can be extremely challenging – especially if you married your polar opposite. Think of it as trying to juggle two marriages simultaneously. You can imagine how much effort that involves!

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There’s more to life than speeding it up!

Rushing into December last year and in the run up to Christmas I had several people say to me “I just don’t know where this year has gone!” or “Time must be moving faster than ever!” or “There just aren’t enough hours in the day!” or derivations of these statements relating to time.

It got me thinking about why these people had the illusion of “Time passing quicker than ever!” Those of you that have been on one of my seminars or heard me speak at an event will know that I talk about our conscious mind. This part of our cognitive thought process can only effectively retain seven, plus or minus two things and most people are constantly trying to juggle a lot more things than that.

atimeflies2With all of the mediums of communication and the amount of information that is coming at us at every second of our waking day, (approximately 2 million bytes every minute) is it any wonder that our focus jumps from one thing to another and thereby creates the illusion that time is going faster. If we are not focused on the passage of time during whatever we are doing then that illusion is exaggerated. In order to slow it down we need to focus on one task at a time and be very aware of each moment.

Now then…. This may come as a shock to you, but we all have the same 24 hours in each day and each of those hours has 60 minutes and each of those minutes has 60 seconds, so why is it that some people get so much more done in there allocation of time?

“It’s not about time management, it is about task management!”

So here are 8 areas where your focus shouldn’t be;

  1. Distractions that keep you from special moments with special people. – Pay attention to the little things, because when you really miss someone you miss the little things the most, like just laughing together.  Go for long walks.  Indulge in great conversations.  Count your mutual blessings.  Let go for a little while and just BE together.
  2. Regrets of any kind. – You don’t have to be defined by the things you once did or didn’t do.  Don’t let yourself be controlled by regret.  Maybe there’s something you could have done differently, or maybe not.  Either way, it’s merely something that has already happened.  Leave the unchangeable past behind you as you give yourself to the present moment.
  3. Resentment. – Kindness is not to be mistaken for weakness, or forgiveness for acceptance.  It’s about knowing that resentment is not on the path to happiness.  Remember, you don’t forgive people because you’re weak. You forgive them because you’re strong enough to know that people make mistakes.
  4. Other people’s mistakes and oversights. – Be tolerant of people’s mistakes and oversights.  Sometimes good people make bad choices.  It doesn’t mean they’re bad; it simply means they are human. Open your mind before you open your mouth.  Don’t hate what you don’t know.  The mind is like a parachute; it doesn’t work when it’s closed.
  5. Trying to impress everyone. – One of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t have to like everyone, everyone doesn’t have to like us, and that’s perfectly OK.  No matter how you live, someone will be disappointed.  So just live your truth and be sure YOU aren’t the one who is disappointed in the end. Don’t take things too personally, even if it seems personal.  Rarely do people do things because of you; they do things because of them.  You honestly can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you.  All you can do is change how you react and who you choose to be around. Remember SW,SW,SW! Some Will, Some Won’t, So What!
  6. People who are negative about your dreams. – It’s better to be lonely than allow negative people and their opinions derail you from your destiny.  Don’t let others crush your dreams.  Do just once what they say you can’t do, and you will never pay attention to their negativity again.
  7. The desire for everything you don’t have. – No, you won’t always get exactly what you want, but remember this:  There are lots of people who will never have what you have right now.  The things you take for granted, someone else is praying for.  Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they already have.
  8. Every point in time other than right now. – Don’t cry over the past, it’s gone.  Don’t stress too much about the future, it hasn’t arrived.  Do your best to live NOW and make this moment worth living.

So there you have it… Stop speeding up time and enjoy the moment you are living in.

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Six things to look for when choosing a coach/mentor!

When I was a young man of 23, my business partner and best mate Jamie and I used to stop off on a Friday night and have a beer in a pub called the Queens Head and as we were enjoying our pint a young ex public school boy used to drop in and have a drink with us.

Chris worked in the City as a financial analyst and he would say to us, “I’ve got a great tip, if you invest just £200 in this share or that bit of stock, it will make you rich!” Now, Jamie and I being working class type men were a bit skeptical of get rich quick schemes, however plausible they might seem and to add to that we were already well on our way to having a few quid!

ASH[1]-47aaWe didn’t invest! What we did do was check young Chris out and found that he lived in a rented one bed flat in a very poor area and was in debt up to his eyebrows. So the question we did have for Chris the next time he came in the pub and sat down with us was “Why if these stocks and shares are so good why are you skint?” Chris didn’t practice what he preached!

Needless to say we didn’t see Chris for a very long time.

One of my key learning points in life is to surround yourself with people that are smarter than you. The delegates that come on my Millionaire Mind-set course will know that I recommend everyone getting a coach/mentor in their life and business. The main reason for this is that we can’t fix a problem with the same level of thinking that created the problem in the first place and as creatures of habit we tend to look for solutions in the same place as we always have.

A lot of small business owners look around at successful business owners and think that they did it all by themselves. Let me tell you this, there are very few successful business people that have done it totally on their own. Every one of them has had some help somewhere; they will have made sure that the people in their lives and business are of the highest quality. I have a mentor and part of her role with me is to keep me focused and accountable.

Every entrepreneur needs a coach/mentor, because the fastest way to learn any business is to study someone who has been successful at it. This person has already paid the price of experience. You must absorb all of the information that you can out of him or her and take action! Does the coach/Mentor that you are considering run successful training courses?

Over the years, I’ve met many people who desperately want to be successful but who are ultimately unwilling to invest in themselves. They think, “I can teach myself. I can learn this on my own.” I’m always gobsmacked by this attitude. If I can avoid making a few mistakes by being mentored by someone that has already been there and done it, then I’m going to.

AshferrariIf a business owner won’t invest in themselves how do they expect other people to invest in them? They are happy to go out on a Friday and Saturday night and pour fifty quid’s worth of alcohol down their neck but won’t pour fifty quid into their head. If only they realised that by pouring the money into their head they could pour as much as they like down their neck in the future!

The wiser people will often come to me and ask me to work with them and others that I meet at network meetings or other business events ask me if I could recommend them to a great coach/mentor, which I do. However, it goes without saying that some coaches/mentors are better than others. There are so many people these days offering their services to entrepreneurs online. Before you jump into a new relationship, take some time to get to know a potential coach/mentor.

I have some basic rules that I use when recommending other coaches/mentors and which, I believe are six great tips before you choose a coach/mentor to take you and your business forward.

So here you go six tips for choosing a business coach/mentor;

  1. Congruency – The number-one thing to look for on someone’s resume is his or her experience.
    • What exactly have they accomplished? Is it the same as you want to accomplish? Your coach/mentor must have walked the walk. I feel strongly about this.
    • Find someone that has truly paid their dues and can speak of their real-life experiences. Ideally, this person will have failed and succeeded. Their insight will help you avoid making costly mistakes and increase your chance of success immensely.
    • Does the coach/mentor you are about to choose have a track record of building successful businesses?
    • Is the coach/mentor’s current business successful? If not why not? I see a lot of business coaches/mentors out there telling other people how to run their business and make more money and they are skint themselves.
    • Make sure the coach/mentor you choose practices what they preach, and actually walk their talk!
  2. Recommendations – Have they got a string of recommendations from real customers?
    • The chances are if you are picking a great coach/mentor they will have a portfolio of testimonials from satisfied clients.
    • Have they got social proof?
    • Have a look at their Linkedin profile and their recommendations. If they haven’t got any, why not?
    • What is being said on Facebook or Twitter?
    • Have a look at some of their YouTube videos.
  3. Honesty – Will they tell you how it is or will they tell you what you want to hear?
    • If you are looking for someone to tell you what you already know, ask yourself is having a YES man doing you any good? You have to want to be challenged!
    • The mentor needs to be honest with you and you need to be honest with yourself.
    • Ask them if they have failed with their past business ventures? If they say no, I would suggest that they are less than honest.
    • Most successful business owners have failed and more importantly they have learned from the experience and then moved on to business success.
  4. Attitude – I have met some business coaches/mentors that are very negative and spend most of their time finding what’s wrong with life rather than what they could do to get a better result. In my experience, having a great attitude comes with time and experience. The right coach/mentor will have been through it all – and come out the other side knowing a sense of humour goes a long way in business.
    • They are able to see the big picture.
    • They don’t get too upset or emotional.
    • An ideal coach/mentor is very patient, but also persistent and determined.
    • Positive energy is very important in any relationship and if your mentor has a negative attitude it will drag you down with them.
    • Make sure that they have a positive outlook on everything and look to find a way to make things happen rather than find reasons why they won’t.
  5. KPI – Are they a Key Person of Influence?
    • Does your potential coach/mentor regularly give talks?
    • Has he or she written a book?
    • Do reporters interview him or her?
    • A great coach/mentor will have longstanding relationships with people who could benefit you. Ask him or her if they’re willing to open doors for you.
    • Sometimes, it is about who you know rather than just what you know.
    • If this person offers a long list of services, exercise caution. It’s impossible to be everything to everyone, and nor is it desirable.
  6. Accountability – A great coach/mentor will not simply let you disappear.
    1. They will hold you accountable. It’s a lonely place owning a business and in a lot of cases you are not accountable to anyone.
    2. Yes, things get in the way. But he or she cares about how you’re doing.
    3. If you’re lucky enough to find a coach/mentor that you gel with, as I have, you will make a great friend for life.
    4. They will enjoy sharing in your success and feeling like they were part of it.

Remember Jim Rohn’s quote “You will become the average of the five people you spend most of your time with!” So surround yourself with people that you aspire to be like and who fill you with positive energy!

avandentFinally I was driving on the motorway to give a talk to a group of business owners when I passed a van and the sign writing said “Don’t drive around with that dent in your car, or that scratch along the door. Let us fix it for you!” Yes you guessed it; in the front wing was a bloody great dent! And to cap it off, guess who was driving the van….. Chris!

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“Don’t ask for financial advice from skint people, don’t ask business advice from people that haven’t had a successful business and make sure you have your dents and scratches sorted by someone that looks after their own vehicle!” 🙂

Thank you Al Frank Monk for a brilliant photo shoot!

 

Ash is the “FlipFlopPsycho!”

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Autobiography in 5 chapters…

I love this little metaphor by Portia Nelson

1) I walk down the street,
There is a deep hole in the pavement,
I fall in,
I am lost…. I am hopeless….
It isn’t my fault,
It takes forever to find a way out.
2) I walk down the same street,
There is a deep hole in the pavement,
I pretend I don’t see it,
I Fall in again,
I can’t believe I’m in the same place,
But it isn’t my fault,
It still takes a long time to get out.
3) I walk down the same street,
There is a deep hole in the pavement,
I see it is there,
I still fall in……..It’s a habit,
My eyes are open,
I know where I am,
It is my fault
I get out immediately
4) I walk down the same street,
There is a deep hole in the pavement,
I walk round it.
5) I walk down another street……..
 
If you don’t make a decision to change, it will stay the same. You have nobody to blame but yourself if you choose not to change……Remember, a decision isn’t a decision until you take action!!!
 
Fall over, pick yourself up, have another go! Repeat! Simples! Never give up… Just change what you’re doing.
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21 days to success!

On a daily basis I get asked for a tip for business or advice on how to fix a problem in one of my clients life. So I’ve put together 10 little bits of wisdom that might just change the way you see things going forward. My challenge to you is to pick one that you like and try it for the next 21 days and see what difference it makes to your life or business. 21 days is about the time it takes to create a habit and if it becomes a positive habit in your life, just think what results you could get…

If it does make a difference to you please leave a comment at the bottom of the page so that others will benefit as well.

  1. Spend more time with the right people.– These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in positive and exciting ways.  They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only accept who you are now, but also accept and encourage who you want to be, unconditionally.
  2. Help other people around you. – Care about people.  Guide them if you know a better way.  The more you help others, the more they will want to help you.  Love and kindness begets love and kindness.  And so on and so forth. Remember it’s not about you! Remember the law of reciprocation.
  3. Be honest with yourself about everything.– Be honest about what’s right, as well as what honestneeds to be changed.  Be honest about what you want to achieve and who you want to become.  Be honest with every aspect of your life, always.  Because you are the one person you can forever count on.  Search your soul, for the truth, so that you truly know who you are.  Once you do, you’ll have a better understanding of where you are now and how you got here, and you’ll be better equipped to identify where you want to go and how to get there.
  4. Value the lessons that your mistakes teach you. – Mistakes are okay; they’re the stepping stones of growth.  If you’re not failing from time to time, you’re not trying hard enough and you’re not learning.  Take risks, trip, fall, and then get up and try again.  Appreciate that you are pushing yourself, learning, growing and improving.  Significant achievements are almost invariably realised at the end of a long road of failures.  One of the ‘mistakes’ you fear might just be the link to your greatest achievement yet. “A mistake is only a mistake if you make it twice; the first time it’s a beautiful lesson”.
  5. Face your problems head on. – It isn’t your problems that define you, but how you react to them and recover from them.  Problems will not disappear unless you take action.  Burying your head in the sand leaves your bum in the air and someone will kick it! Do what you can, when you can, and acknowledge what you’ve done.  It’s all about taking small steps in the right direction, inch by inch.  These inches count, they add up to yards and the yards add up to miles.
  6. Take full responsibility for your own life. – No one is going to save you! Own your choices and mistakes, and be willing to take the necessary steps to improve upon them.  Either you take responsibility for your life or someone else will.  And when they do, you’ll become a slave to their ideas and dreams instead of a creator of your own.  You are the only one who can directly control the outcome of your life.  And no, it won’t always be easy.  Every person has a stack of challenges in front of them. You must take responsibility for your situation and overcome these challenges.  Choosing not to, is choosing a lifetime of mere existence.
  7. silver liningLook for the silver lining in every situation. – When things are hard, and you feel down, take a few deep breaths and look for the silver lining – the small rays of hope.  Remind yourself that you can and will grow stronger from these hard times.  And stay conscious of your blessings and victories – all the things in your life that are right.  Focus on all of the great things that you already have, not on those that you don’t.
  8. Be more polite to yourself. – If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend?  The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others.  If you don’t love who you are, no one else will.
  9. Move towards your goals every single day. – Remember, the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. (Lao Tzu)  Whatever it is you dream about, start taking small, logical steps every day to make it happen.  Get out there and DO something!  The harder you work the luckier you will become.  While many of us decide at some point during the course of our lives that we want to answer our calling, only an astute few of us actually work on it.  By ‘working on it,’ I mean consistently devoting oneself to the end result. Email me for my goal funnel.
  10. Focus on the possibility of positive outcomes. – The mind must believe it CAN do something before it is capable of actually doing it.  The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful.  Listen to your self-talk and replace negative thoughts with positive ones.  Regardless of how a situation seems, focus on what you DO WANT to happen, and then take the next positive step forward.  No, you can’t control everything that happens to you, but you can control how you react to things.  Everyone’s life has positive and negative aspects – whether or not you’re happy and successful in the long run depends greatly on which aspects you focus on. What you think about, you bring about!

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The Pink Suitcase!

A busy day on the road where I live is three cars and two horses, to say it is secluded is an understatement so imagine my surprise when driving to visit a client early one morning I saw a pink suitcase abandoned in the hedgerow about a quarter of a mile from my house.

On my way home the suitcase was still there, however, its position had changed and it was now slightly open. Somebody had clearly stopped and taken the time to open the suitcase and inspect the contents although clearly there was nothing in it for them.

The next morning I was out early again on my way to an ABC Networks meeting and the suitcase was still there but was now closed again, had someone else inspected it and found nothing in it for them?

Pink suitcaseThat evening on my way home I could see the suitcase in my headlights and it was, once again open and the contents (old clothes) strewn on the ground. Someone had again been looking to see if there was anything in there for them. Something for nothing!

I stopped picked up the contents of the suitcase and replaced them, closed it and put it into the boot of my car. The next morning I drove to our local disposal area which is a ten minute drive from where the suitcase had originally been dumped and put the old clothes into the container with all the other discarded items and then put the suitcase into the crusher. The complete process including to and from the tip took me less than 30 mins.

Now this isn’t just a story about looking after our countryside and me being a litter crusader. For me it actually throws up three individual morals; you know how I love a story with a moral attached!

  1. On a networking level; lots of small business owners attend network meetings and are only looking for what’s in it for them, similar to the people looking in the pink suitcase. Networking is far more productive if people think along the lines of “How can I connect someone to another person that maybe good for them?” or “How can I turn this stranger into a friend?” or “How can I contribute to the group?” or “How can I recommend a business in the room to one of my friends, Family or clients?” In time the law of reciprocation will repay them ten fold.
  2. On a business level; there are no short cuts to success. If we want to achieve success, whatever that looks like for us, we have to pay in advance and in full. Being successful in business is very much about sow and reap, you can only take out what you put in. If you put as much time into working on your business as you do in looking for a short cut then you are more likely to find the success you are looking for. You won’t find any secret source in a pink suitcase.
  3. On a human level; we are all living on this planet together and sooner or later all these little (or in some cases not so little) acts of selfishness will add up and destroy the very thing that gives us life. Dropping McDonalds bags out of your car window, a fag end just flicked into the path of another driver are just small examples of “It’s all about me” which today’s society seems to be all about. Not caring about anyone else except “What’s in it for me me me!”

If we would all just think about the impact of our actions on other human beings before discarding an old pink suitcase in a  picturesque country lane, so that other greedy, what’s in it for me losers can pin all their hopes of a short cut on, what a great start that would be.

The next time you ask the question “What’s in this for me!” Think about the pink suitcase, and maybe, just maybe we could start a revolution of daily acts of kindness to our fellow human beings!

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Your challenge, should you choose to accept it!

Finish with a BANG!

We only have 9 weeks of 2015 left so I have a challenge for you all to help you finish the year with a BANG!BANG

Please read the blog below and then if you accept the challenge at the end, we can measure the results!

I’ve always been interested in people who are consistently successful at what they do; especially those who experience repeated success in many areas of their life throughout their lifetime I think of Alan Sugar, Richard Branson, Peter Jones & Hilary Devay.  We all have our own examples of really successful business people like these.  The question is; how do they do it?

Over the years I’ve looked at the lives of lots of successful business owners.  I’ve watched their YouTube channels, looked at their articles online and read their books etc.  I’ve learned that most of them were not born into success; they simply did, and continue to do, things that help them realise their full potential.  Here are six things that they do differently and consistently that the rest of us can easily copy.

So here we go 6 challenges to help you finish the year with a BANG!

  1. Create and pursue S.M.A.R.T. goals.

Successful people are objective.  They have realistic targets in mind.  They know what they are looking for and why they are fighting for it.  Successful people create and pursue S.M.A.R.T. goals.

  • Specific– A general goal would be, “Get fit.” A specific goal would be, “Go to a personal trainer & train 3 days a week for the next 52 weeks.”  A specific goal has a far greater chance of being accomplished because it has defined parameters and constraints.
  • Measurable– There must be a logical system for measuring the progress of a goal.  To determine if your goal is measurable, ask yourself questions like:  How much time? How many?  How will I know when the goal is accomplished? When you measure your progress, you stay on track, reach your target dates, and experience the exhilaration of achievement that encourages you on to the continued efforts required to reach your goal.
  • Attainable – To be attainable, a goal must represent an objective toward which you are both willing and able to work.  In other words, the goal must be realistic.  The big question here is:  How can the goal be accomplished?

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  • Relevant– Relevance stresses the importance of choosing goals that matter.  For example, an internet entrepreneur’s goal to “Make 75 tuna sandwiches by 2:00PM.” may be Specific, Measurable, Attainable, and Timely, but lacks Relevance to an entrepreneurs overarching objective of building a profitable online business.
  • Timely– A goal must be grounded within a time frame, giving the goal a target date.  A commitment to a deadline helps you focus your efforts on the completion of the goal on or before the due date.  This part of the S.M.A.R.T. goal criteria is intended to prevent goals from being overtaken by daily distractions.

When you identify S.M.A.R.T. goals that are truly important to you, you become motivated to figure out ways to attain them.  You develop the necessary attitude, abilities, and skills.  You can achieve almost any goal you set if you plan your steps wisely and establish a time frame that allows you to carry out those steps.  Goals that once seemed far away and out of reach eventually move closer and become attainable, not because your goals shrink, but because you grow and expand to match them.

Challenge 1 – Set 3 S.M.A.R.T. goals to achieve by the end of the year. Write them down and review them on a daily basis and ask yourself “Have I moved towards or away from my goal today?”

2-Focus on being productive, not being busy.

In his book, The 4-Hour Workweek, Tim Ferris says, “Slow down and remember this:  Most things make no difference.  Being busy is often a form of mental laziness – lazy thinking and indiscriminate action.”  This is Ferris’ way of saying “work smarter, not harder,” which happens to be one of the most prevalent modern day personal development clichés.  But like most clichés, there’s a great deal of truth to it, and few people actually adhere to it.

Just take a quick look around.  The busy outnumber the productive by a big margin.

Busy people are rushing all over the place, and running late most of the time.  They’re heading to work, conferences, meetings, social engagements, etc.  They barely have enough free time for family get-togethers and they rarely get enough sleep.  Yet, business emails are shooting out of their smart phones like machine gun bullets, and their daily to do list is jammed to the brim with promises to do things that they just won’t get round to.

Their busy schedule gives them an elevated sense of importance.  But it’s all an illusion.  They’re like hamsters running on a wheel.

The solution:  Slow down.  Breathe.  Review your commitments and goals.  Put first things first.  Do one thing at a time.  Start now.  Take a short break in two hours.  Repeat.

And always remember, results are more important than the time it takes to achieve them. It’s not hocus pocus; it’s all about focus!

Challenge 2 Pick 2 things each day that will make the biggest difference in your business or life and focus on them until you finish them.

3 – Avoid the trap of trying to make things perfect.

Many of us are perfectionists in our own right.  I know I am at times.  We set high bars for ourselves and put our best foot forward.  perfectWe dedicate copious amounts of time and attention to our work to maintain our high personal standards.  Our passion for excellence drives us to run the extra mile, never stopping, never relenting. This dedication towards perfection undoubtedly helps us achieve results…  So long as we don’t get carried away. Perfectionism is subjective, so one man’s meat is another man’s poison!

What happens when we do get carried away with perfectionism?

We become disgruntled and discouraged when we fail to meet the (impossibly high) standards we set for ourselves, making us reluctant to take on new challenges or even finish jobs we’ve already started.  Our insistence on dotting every ‘I’ and crossing every ‘T’ breeds inefficiency, causing major delays, stress overload and below par results.

True perfectionists have a hard time starting things and an even harder time finishing them, always.  I have a client who has wanted to write her own book.  But she hasn’t yet.  Why?  When you sift through her extensive list of excuses it comes down to one simple problem:  She is a perfectionist.  Which means that she doesn’t and never will, think she or the book is good enough.

Remember, the real world doesn’t reward perfectionists.  It rewards people who get things done.  And the only way to get things done is to be imperfect 99% of the time.  Only by wading through years of practice and imperfection can we begin to achieve momentary glimpses of the perfection.  So make a decision.  Take action, learn from the outcome, and repeat this method over and over again in all walks of life. It’s not about getting it perfect; it’s about getting it going.

Challenge 3 – Find something that you haven’t started because it’s not perfect and get it going.

4 – Work outside of your comfort zone.

The number one thing I persistently see holding smart people back is their own reluctance to accept an opportunity simply because they don’t think they’re ready.  In other words, they feel uncomfortable and believe they require additional knowledge, skill, experience, etc. before they can seize the opportunity.  Sadly, this is the kind of thinking that stifles personal growth and success.

The truth is nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Most great opportunities in life force us to grow emotionally and intellectually.  They force us to stretch ourselves and our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.  And when we don’t feel comfortable, we don’t feel ready.

Significant moments of opportunity for personal growth and success will come and go throughout your lifetime.  If you are looking to make positive changes and new breakthroughs in your life, you will need to embrace these moments of opportunity even though you will never feel 100% ready for them.

Challenge 4 – Identify 3 areas of your life where you are comfortable and step out of your comfort zone and stretch yourself into doing something different!

5 – Focus on making small, continuous improvements.

Henry Ford once said, “Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small pieces.” The same concept configured as a question:  How do you eat an elephant?  Answer: One bite at a time.  This philosophy holds true for achieving your biggest goals.  Making small, positive changes – eating a little healthier, exercising a little every day, creating some small productive habits, for example – is an amazing way to get excited about life and slowly reach the level of success you aspire to.elephant

And if you start small, you don’t need a lot of motivation to get going either.  The simple act of getting started and doing something will give you the momentum you need, and soon you’ll find yourself in a positive spiral of changes – one building on the other.

Start with just one activity, and make a plan for how you will deal with troubles when they arise.  For instance, if you’re trying to lose weight, come up with a list of healthy snacks you can eat when you get the craving for snacks.  It will be hard in the beginning, but it will get easier.  And that’s the whole point.  As your strength grows, you can take on bigger challenges.

Challenge 5 –Research the word Kaizen and adopt the principle of never ending and continuous improvement!

6 – Maintain a positive outlook and learn from your mistakes.

Successful people concentrate on the positives – they look for the silver lining in every situation.  They know that it is their positivity that will take them to greatness.  If you want to be successful, you need to have a positive outlook toward life.  Life will test you again and again.  If you give in to internal negativity, you will never be able to achieve the marks you have targeted.

think positiveRemember, every mistake you make is progress.  Mistakes teach you important lessons.  Every time you make one, you’re one step closer to your goal.  The only mistake that can truly hurt you is choosing to do nothing simply because you’re too scared to make a mistake.

So don’t hesitate – don’t doubt yourself!  Don’t let your own negativity sabotage you.  Learn what you can and press forward.

Remember, “A mistake is only a mistake if you make it twice; the first time it’s a beautiful lesson!”

Challenge 6 – For the rest of the year, for every negative thought you have replace it with 3 positive thoughts and then take the positive action to go with the thought.

If you accept the challenge please email me and I’ll add you to the “End with a bang!” Facebook page where you can share your goals and achievements. The winner will receive a FREE place on my next Millionaire mindset course! (My decision is final!)

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Action cures everything!

I’m at one of ABC Networks meeting every day of the week and I tend to meet two types of people; those that want to build their business and those that don’t.

Of those that want to build their business there are two types; Those that don’t know what to do and those that know what to do but don’t do it.

Of those that don’t know what to do there are two types; those that take action and those that don’t.

Of those that take action there are two types; those that get the results that they want and those that don’t.

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Wiley old fox wisdom!

I see lots of clients in varying states of mind from ecstatic down to depressed! What I’ve noticed is the happier ones have a similar philosophy and the most popular are the following seven points. Give it a go for a month and see how your mood improves.

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  1. Do It Now. – You will be dead one day. I know that may come as a surprise to you, but it’s true. Nobody is going to get out of this life alive! My question to you is this: Are you choosing to live right here, right now? Think about it for a moment. Life doesn’t start when “this, that, or the other thing‚Äù is sorted. This IS your time. Life is now. Do something with it. Waiting is a trap designed to waste your life. Remember, as you live your minutes you live your hours. As you live your hours, you live your days and as you live your days you live your life. Make sure you use every minute wisely because today is your life!
  2. Your goals are important. – If you want to live a happy, fulfilling life, set some meaningful goals. Never put off or give up on something that’s important to you… not because you still have tomorrow to start or try again, but because you may not have tomorrow at all. Life is shorter than it sometimes seems. Make today count. Take just one small step each day. At the end of each day ask yourself “Have I moved towards my goal or away from it?”
  3. Work Hard. – Remember, personal growth in all walks of life is a slow process. There are no short cuts. You need to work on it gradually every day. You can be who you want to be in life. Don’t settle for less than what you think you deserve, or less than you know you can be. Despite the struggles you will have along the way, never give up on yourself. You are better than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and twice as capable as you have ever imagined. Keep going.
  4. Conquer fear. – It’s often difficult to grow into your greatest self, but it’s just crazy to let the lie of fear stop you. So realise right now that fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in your head. Be brave. Go after your goals. Never let your fear determine your present or decide your future. Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is far more important than fear. Remember FEAR is just False Evidence Appearing Real!
  5. Learn to use “What if?” – Life is too short to wait. Every new day is another chance to change your life. Every great achievement starts with the decision to try. Ask yourself “What if…” and then DO IT NOW. Give yourself a fair chance. You will be surprised how often “what if” works. And no, you won’t win every time. You must keep trying, and do the best you can do every day – to improve on what you learned yesterday. Instead of saying “I can’t do that!” Ask “What if I could?”
  6. Enjoy the moment – You will always be missing out on something. You simply can’t have it all. Thus, it will always seem like something wonderful might be happening elsewhere. grass greenerAnd that’s OK. Let it go, and realise you have everything right now. The best in life isn’t somewhere else; it’s right where you are at this moment. You have to accept that some things will never be yours, and learn to value the things that are only yours. The grass may seem greener on the other side of the fence, but you still have to cut it! Enjoy and tend your own grass!
  1. Get out there and start LIVING. – Laugh often and love genuinely. Respect others and judge less. Win the affection and sincere smiles of children. Earn the regard of honest peers and endure the betrayal of fake friends. Appreciate the beauty surrounding you wherever you are, whenever you are. Find the good in people and situations. Leave the world a little better than you found it. Know that at least one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is what LIVING is all about!

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Reasons or Excuses?

As a performance psychologist, and someone who talks to business owners on a daily basis, some who are my clients and many more who are not, I’ve heard an incredible number of reasons why businesses are struggling or failing.

 I know that 99 out of 100 times that  a reason‚ really isn’t a reason at all, it’s aexcusesn excuse. There’s a big difference, and I’ll tell you what it is.

A reason is an explanation for why something is the way it is, with everyone involved taking accountability for their part in a situation.

An “excuse” is an explanation for why something is the way it is, that always involves the blame being put on someone or something that isn’t involved in the conversation, and not able to share their side of the story.

What’s the difference?

Accountability!

Let me give you some examples of common excuses for why businesses, fail:

  1. The market is flat
  2. There’s a recession
  3. Too many people doing the same thing
  4. I’m depressed
  5. It’s not perfect
  6. I don’t know what to do
  7. There’s not enough hours in the day

This list is endless. There are as many excuses for failure as there are failed businesses. If a person were to take accountability for their decisions and their actions, those excuses could be seen as the real reasons for failure, and they would look more like this:

  1. The market is slow, so what CAN I do to make it better
  2. One man’s recession is another mans OPPORTUNITY to grow
  3. How CAN I stand out above the others
  4. I feel low so what CAN I do to feel better
  5. NOTHING is perfect I‚’m just going to get it going
  6. What do I need to LEARN to do this
  7. How CAN I manage my tasks better

You probably notice a pattern forming here. For every excuse that a business owner can give for a business failing, there is a real reason that points back to something THEY did or didn’t do.

I’m sharing this information not to make anyone feel bad about their struggles or mistakes, I’m ssave youharing it to help business owners realise that they are the only person that controls their destiny.

Nobody is going to save you. You are responsible for you, get over it and get on with it.

For every mistake someone else makes that affects your business, there is a system & process you could have put in place to increase your chances of avoiding the mistake in the first place.

Until you learn to be accountable and responsible for you and your choices, you’ll be doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over.

Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, everyone does, and only those people that admit their responsibility in the mistake learn from it. These are the people that can keep trying and eventually taste success, after all, a mistake is only a mistake if you make it twice. The first time it is a beautiful lesson!

Those that want to blame someone else, themselves or circumstance for their failures are dooming themselves to a life full of them.

You can choose reasons (excuses) or you can choose results; unfortunately you can’t choose both!

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