Might seem crazy what I’m about to say!
Everybody experiences difficulties and disappointment in their life! It’s how we choose to deal with it that makes the difference between being happy or not…
Us psychologists believe that you can choose to be happy despite what’s going on around you.
Try this little experiment….
Close your eyes and think of a song that makes you feel sad. Get into the song and experience the emotion.
Now keeping your eyes closed think of a happy song, and again get into that song and experience the emotion.
So did your mood lift with the happy song?
A little effort can go a long way in increasing happiness. Two small experimental studies, published this year in the Journal of Positive Psychology, found that simply trying to be happier could actually elevate mood and well-being. In one study, two groups of students listened to “happy” music — one group was instructed to make a concerted effort to feel happier, while the other group was instructed not to actively try to lift their mood. The group that tried to feel happy experienced the most elevated moods after listening to the music.
Make happiness your number-one goal.
People who are happy choose to make happiness among their top goals in life, according to psychologist Tom G. Stevens, Ph.D., author of You Can Choose to Be Happy.
“Choose to take advantage of opportunities to learn how to be happy,” Stevens said “For example, reprogram your beliefs and values. Learn good self-management skills, good interpersonal skills, and good career-related skills. Choose to be in environments and around people that increase your probability of happiness. The people who become the happiest and grow the most are those who also make truth and their own personal growth primary values.”
Remember life is about sow and reap! You can’t plant bananas and pick cucumbers!