Say what you do, do what you say!

Say what you do, do what you say!! Really? Recently I’ve been out visiting different network groups, mainly to see how other people do it and if necessary bring ABC Networks up to scratch. One of the main things I’ve noticed and quite frankly has shocked me is the number of people that make promises that they don’t keep. 

Why would they say one thing and do something different? It appears to me that this phenomenon is endemic among small business owners.

Now, I say to myself, there is no such thing as coincidence, so where else is this showing up in their lives? It can’t just be a one off!

When we don’t follow through on things that we promise to do, it not only shows disrespect but also destroys trust. Who wants to do business with someone they don’t trust, and more to the point in the context of networking would you refer someone you don’t trust?

What is it that makes them over promise and under deliver?  Is it the fact that they want us to have a positive and favourable opinion of them? This seems to be a pointless exercise as after all, we will find out at a later time that they don’t deliver on their promises.

Ash’s first rule of life and business…‚ “Say what you do, do what you say.” If you can’t follow through with the action, don’t make the promise.

Your mission for this yodaweek is to see where you are following through on your promises, how ever small they may be.

As Yoda once said “Either do or do not, there is no try!”

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Proving a point is pointless!

I’m sure you have all seen, and like me, you’ve had enough of the vitriol in the social media about the general election and Brexit. One of the things that has amazed me is that a lot of people would rather be right than the country be in a better state.

People may spend a lot of time and energy  proving a point about something. You can never prove you are right to someone else’ The harder you try to prove it to them, the more stubborn both you and they become, often to the point that whoever is wrong, even if it’s you, will never admit it.

The only person who is important in determining whether you’re right is YOU. How you see a situation is your view alone. Your beliefs and opinions belong to you, nobody else. Your thoughts about a situation, with respect to yourself, is what counts. Everyone sees things with a different set of eyes. Each has the right to their views or opinions.

There’s a big difference between believing a viewpoint or opinion to be right, and whether it’s objectively and factual, accurate or correct. People often do things or have ideas that are inaccurate or incorrect. But facts don’t have to be proven to others. People in relationships, such as parents, spouses, bosses, have both the right and the responsibility to point out errors of fact to others.
Recognise the difference between opinion and fact. It can prevent you from falling into a trap of having to prove yourself to someone else. Facts are objective and true, you don’t need to prove them to others. The facts do that on their own. If you tell someone that a bus leaves at 8am, you don’t have to prove it. If the person arrives at 8:10, the bus will be gone!
Recognise when others draw you into a trap of trying to “prove” yourself or prove your point. Extended families often try this trick especially on newcomers like son-in-laws and daughter-in-laws. These newcomers are often baited by opinionated statements, and end up trying to prove a point in defence of themselves or others.
You’ll never prove a point to someone else who holds an opinion or a value quite different from yours. You’ll only escalate tempers and emotions and create hard feelings between you and them. YOU KNOW if your opinions, views, ideas and values are right for you. That’s all you need. Don’t get caught in a never-ending circular trap of trying to prove you’re points or views are right to others.

Equally, don’t react to baited comments from others. Don’t think you have to prove you’re right, and they’re wrong. You’ll just wear yourself down, or work yourself into such an anger that you may do things that you seriously regret and feel badly about later.
“The proof of the pudding is in the eating”. The proof of your views, opinions and ideas, is in your confidence with yourself. This can’t be forced on others despite how great you feel that proof is.

So proving a point is pointless!

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Daniel Priestly Key Person of Influence Seminar

Ash recently formed a joint venture with Daniel Priestley and his company Entrevo. As a result he has a number of complimentary tickets for the next event on the 17th October at the Mermaid theatre in London.

These one day seminars are fantastic value and are well worth a day of anyone’s time. As an added bonus for this particular event Vince Cable will also be speaking.

As an ABC member I am offering you an opportunity to grab one of these complimentary places.

Have a look at the event here! Please DO NOT BOOK on this link as you will be charged.

If you would like to attend with one of my complimentary tickets you can book here! Please complete all of the fields including your mobile number as they will call you to confirm the booking.

Please only book if you are going to attend as Ash will be charged the full fee for any of his guests not attending.

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Life Lessons!

It’s coming up to 5 years since the unexpected passing of my mum. This weekend I caught myself reflecting on the morning when I received the news, and how since, lots of people who I barely know came up to me over the subsequent days and gave me a pat on the back, a hug, or a genuine “I’m sorry!”
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