You know how you can hear something a hundred times in a hundred different ways before it finally gets through to you? The five truths listed below fall firmly into that category – life lessons that many of us likely learned years ago, and have been reminded of ever since, but for whatever reason, haven’t fully grasped. More →
Very frequently I’m asked to give my definition of success.
Here is one of my responses:
I believe success is getting a reasonable number of the things money will buy and all of the things that money can’t buy. (People who say they’re not interested in money will lie about other things, too!)
I confess that I like the things money will buy. I like to live in a nice house, drive a nice car, wear nice clothes, play on beautiful golf courses, take regular holidays. I like all of those things, but I love the things that money can’t buy.
Money will buy me that house, but not a home. It’ll buy me a companion, but not a friend. It will buy me pleasure, but not happiness. Money will buy me a bed, but not a good night’s sleep. It will buy me a good time, but not peace of mind.
I’m grateful for the fact that I have many of the things that money will buy and all of the things that money can’t buy. I know many other people who can make the same statement. I mention that only to say that these things are available and, by following the right procedures, playing by the rules of the game, and taking responsibility for your life, you can have them all. That’s exciting!
Success – What It Is and Isn’t as I see it!
What is success? It is many things to many people. Here are a few signs of success:
Success is closing the door to your office at the end of the day with a smile of satisfied contentment on your face. It’s knowing that you did a good job and that those who interacted with you had a positive experience.
Success is looking forward to getting home and seeing the people you love. It’s being mentally and emotionally free to share yourself with them and to be interested in them.
Success is being loved by the people you love.
Success is sitting down to pay the bills and knowing that you have enough money to cover them, this month and next month. It’s knowing that you have taken measures to ensure the financial security of your family in the event of your demise.
Success is knowing where to turn when it seems that there’s nowhere to turn. Having a spiritual life is akin to eating food and drinking water. It’s necessary!
Success is having interests or hobbies to call your own. It’s things that you personally anticipate doing again and again. Having interests gives you joy and peace.
Success is waking up in the morning and feeling good. It’s knowing that you eat right and exercise regularly and that you do everything you personally can to ensure continued good health.
Success is turning out the lights, slipping under the covers, and thinking to yourself, “It just doesn’t get much better than this!” It’s having an attitude of gratitude before you fall into a deep, restful sleep.
And here are a few things that success is not:
Success isn’t calling home from work for the fourth time this week, apologising because you’re going to miss dinner with the family again.
Success isn’t hurrying into the house and hiding behind closed doors or the television set because “After the day I’ve had, I need my space!”
Success isn’t having all the riches in the world and still trying to figure out how to have more of all the riches in the world.
Success isn’t all work and no play.
Success isn’t burning the candle at both ends and living on a diet of food that’s delivered through little windows.
Success isn’t spending mental energy figuring out how to explain why your project isn’t going to come in on time, why you have to miss your child’s school play, why you can’t pay the bill in full as you promised, why your eyes are red and your blood pressure is going through the roof, why you’re cancelling your game of golf, and why you just don’t find any joy in living.
Success is directly related to having a balanced life. If any one area is out of sync, all of the areas of your life suffer. Take the time to examine your life and take small steps to gain balance.
Maybe you have seen some indicators here as to how successful your life is at the moment.
If it’s not what you want it to be, the only person going to change it is you. So what are you waiting for?
As any of my clients will tell you, I am not so much interested in what happens to them on any given day, but I am very interested with how they react to whatever happens. Your mind-set plays the key role in determining your reaction.
I believe that the only difference between stepping stones and stumbling blocks is how you perceive them. I never bet against any of my clients, but I must admit that I do look forward to the occasions where they face adversity, as this is where I usually can help them the most.
It’s easy to have a positive mind-set when everything is going well. It’s those who can turn adversity into an advantage that tend to endure and have the most success in the long run. I help my clients to look at inevitable setbacks, not as disappointments, but rather as challenges that present opportunities for further growth.
William Shakespeare once said “There is nothing either good or bad – but thinking makes it so.” The average person tends to get discouraged by setbacks – as if we are entitled to only good things happening to us in our lives – and often dwell on them. Doing so is a choice, and in my experience it is the wrong one.
I look at difficult challenges as gifts that give us the chance to work on things that need attention now, before they become bigger problems that are more difficult to fix down the road. Many people do not realise that most top performers employ someone like me, who communicates with them at least once a week to keep their mind-set where it needs to be.
We all have blind spots, and it is crucial to have a trusted outsider’s view, as they can offer insights that regularly hit the spot and help keep you moving forward as efficiently as possible. Though perhaps it is somewhat surprising, the communication is often more important during times when things are going well.
Blind spots are even more common during periods of success, than in times of adversity. It is important not to lose sight of what got you the results you are experiencing, if you want them to continue. The greater the results, the more likely you will be surrounded by people who tell you only what you want to hear (which is very destructive) and never what you need to hear.
I have seen many business owners and sportsmen and women fall victim to their ego. When your ego takes over in any situation, it complicates things and leads to poor choices (often unknown to you); the best choices are made when things are simplified.
Having someone to help you keep your ego in check, plays a large role in maintaining a positive growth mind-set instead of a fixed mind-set. Most people who fall victim to their growing ego do so because it grows so slowly that they are oblivious to the fact it has taken over their psyche.
One of perhaps the greatest minds of all-time, Benjamin Franklin, fell victim to his ego before realising that no one he wanted to be around could stand spending time with him. Unlike most people, he was able to finally see past his ego and make corrections. This is very rare and a good example of a situation where an ounce of prevention is greater than a pound of cure.
Not too long ago I was talking to a very successful business owner who I had noticed was falling victim to his ego, and he told me he had just finished reading the Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin and how much he enjoyed it. All I could think was that it was too bad that his mind-set was fixed, and caused him to miss the message in it that he needed most.
I won’t go as far as saying that not having the proper mind-set will prevent you from succeeding, but I will guarantee that without a proper mind-set you will never be as successful as you could be.
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Those who play the game of life to NOT TO LOSE. (Keep collecting more information and avoid taking Action.)
The reason why most people do not have what they want is because their sub-concious goal is not to get what they want, but to avoid failure and disappointment. (Fear of failure) So they CHOOSE to do nothing. They just read and study and accumulate more information.
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It’s all about choice…. What are you choosing right now?