Score a goal!

16. Define one long-term goal and work on it for an hour every day.

If you walked into a railway station and said “Can I have a ticket please?” The first thing the ticket clerk would say to you is “Where to?”

So you need to know where you are going to begin with. I’m sure you have all set goals for this year because you all know that the most successful people all work towards achieving their goals.

Choose one of your goals and break it down into bite-sized pieces and focus on achieving each one piece at a time.

It really is all about taking baby steps, and taking the first step is often the hardest.

Spend an hour every day for the next 21 days working toward something you’ve always wanted to accomplish.

Take a small dream and make it a reality.

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Talk!

15. Have a conversation every day with someone you rarely speak to.

People are interesting creatures, and no two people are exactly alike.

Interacting with different people will open your mind to fascinating ideas and perspectives.

So for the next 21 days strike up a conversation daily with someone you rarely speak to, or someone you’ve never met before. Find out what makes them tick.

“The quality of your life is directly proportional to the quality of your relationships! The quality of you relationships is directly proportional to the quality of your communication!” Ash Lawrence..

So start improving your communication skills.

A great book to read is Dale Carnegie’s “How to win friends and influence people!”

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Let them go!

14. Let go of one relationship that constantly hurts you.

Keep people in your life who truly love you, motivate you, encourage you, enhance you, and make you happy.

If you know people who do none of these things, let them go and make room for new positive relationships.

Over the next 21 days, if relevant to your situation, gradually let go of one person in your life who has been continuously hurting you and holding you back.

Remember “You will become the average of the 5 people that you spend the most time with!” So if they are not positive happy people, the chances are neither will you be!

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Gossip!

The philosopher had just spent another hard day at the university asking lots of pertinent and challenging questions. On the way to his favourite restaurant for dinner, he was greeted by an acquaintance.

“Do you know what I just heard about your friend Jamie?”

“Just a moment,” said the philosopher. “Before listening to this I’d like to ask you a few questions.”
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“Huh?” said the acquaintance, who was eager to pass on the interesting piece of hot news.

“That’s right. Before you talk about my friend Jamie, it might be a good idea to just pause and consider what you are about to say. I call it the triple distillation test.

The first distillation test is through the filter of truth. Have you made absolutely certain what you are about to tell me is the truth?”
“Well….no, actually, you see I just heard about it, and thought, well, you know….

“All right,” said the philosopher. “So you have no idea whether the information is true or not. So let’s try the second distillation through the filter of goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?”

“No not at all, in fact—”

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“So,” interrupted the philosopher, “you wish to tell me something bad about my friend Jamie, but you’re not at all sure it’s true?”

“However, you may still pass this test, because there’s one more distillation process remaining, the filter of usefulness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend in any way useful to me?”

“Um. No. In fact, not in the slightest.”

“Fine,” said the philosopher. “If what you want to tell me is not true, good or useful, why do you wish to tell me at all?”

There are several good points to this story, not least the following:

• Personal and professional integrity are essential if a leader wants others to follow him or her freely and with commitment.
• In contexts where gossip, rumour and innuendo are rife, this could be a good story to challenge the culture.
• The wise person pays attention to the wider consequences rather than the immediate distractions.

So, in the future before you decide to participate in some office gossip, perhaps run the distillation test?

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Make 3 calls!

13. Have a conversation every day with someone you rarely speak to.

People are interesting creatures, and no two people are exactly alike. Interacting with different people will open your mind to fascinating ideas and perspectives. So for the next 21 days strike up a conversation daily with someone you rarely speak to, or someone you’ve never met before.

Find out what makes them tick.

Pick up the phone and make 3 calls to people you haven’t spoken to for a long time, old clients or someone you met at an ABC Meeting a while back.

Just see where the conversation goes, ask questions and be interested in what they have to say.

The journey could go something like this; Turn a stranger into a friend, turn a friend into a potential client, turn a potential client into a client and turn an old client into a client!

It’s just a conversation, but if you don’t start it, it won’t go anywhere!

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Face your fears!

12.Get uncomfortable and face a fear every day.

With a strategy of continuous small steps into uncomfortable territory we are often able to sidestep the biggest barrier to positive change:

Fear. Sometimes we’re afraid we’ll fail. Sometimes we’re subconsciously afraid we’ll succeed and then we’d have to deal with all the disruption (growth) and change that follows success. And other times it’s our fear of rejection or simply our fear of looking like a fool.

The best way to defeat fear is to stare it down. Connect to your fear, feel it in your body, realise it and steadily address it. Greet it by name if you have to: “Welcome, fear.‚Äù

Fear can be a guiding friend if you learn how to swallow it, and listen to it only when it serves its true purpose of warning you when you are in danger.

Spend an hour every day for the next 21 day’s addressing a fear that is holding you back.

And Remember that “Beyond your greatest fear, is your greatest achievement!”

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Junk cleanse!

11.Get rid of one thing a day for 21 days.

We have so much clutter surrounding us at any given moment (at the office, in our cars, in our homes) and we’ve become so accustomed to it that we no longer notice how it affects us.

If you start cleaning up some of this external clutter, a lot of internal clutter will disappear as well.

Choose one needless item each and every day and get rid of it. It’s that simple.

It might be difficult at first, so expect some resistance. But after some time you will begin to learn to let go of your pack-rat tendencies, and your mind will thank you for your efforts.

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Happiness is a daily choice!

Might seem crazy what I’m about to say!

Everybody experiences difficulties and disappointment in their life! It’s how we choose to deal with it that makes the difference between being happy or not…

Us psychologists believe that you can choose to be happy despite what’s going on around you.

Try this little experiment….

Close your eyes and think of a song that makes you feel sad. Get into the song and experience the emotion.

Now keeping your eyes closed think of a happy song, and again get into that song and experience the emotion.

So did your mood lift with the happy song?

A little effort can go a long way in increasing happiness. Two small experimental studies, published this year in the Journal of Positive Psychology, found that simply trying to be happier could actually elevate mood and well-being. In one study, two groups of students listened to “happy” music — one group was instructed to make a concerted effort to feel happier, while the other group was instructed not to actively try to lift their mood. The group that tried to feel happy experienced the most elevated moods after listening to the music.

Make happiness your number-one goal.

People who are happy choose to make happiness among their top goals in life, according to psychologist Tom G. Stevens, Ph.D., author of You Can Choose to Be Happy.

“Choose to take advantage of opportunities to learn how to be happy,” Stevens said “For example, reprogram your beliefs and values. Learn good self-management skills, good interpersonal skills, and good career-related skills. Choose to be in environments and around people that increase your probability of happiness. The people who become the happiest and grow the most are those who also make truth and their own personal growth primary values.”

Remember life is about sow and reap! You can’t plant bananas and pick cucumbers!

Start feeling happier here!

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Right here, Right now!

10.Pay attention and enjoy your life as it happens.

I watched a bit of the Academy Awards a few months ago I realised that most of the speeches actors and actresses make when they accept an award go something like this: “This means so much so me. My whole life has been leading up to this moment.‚Äù

The truth is, our whole lives have been leading up to every moment.

Think about that for a second.

Every single thing you’ve gone through in life, every high, every low and everything in between, it has led you to this moment right now.

Ask yourself this: How much of life are you actually living?

If you’re like most people, the answer is likely: “Not enough.”

The key is to concentrate on a little less on doing and a little more on being. Remember, right now is the only moment guaranteed to you. Right now is life.

Spend the next 21 days living in the now, for real.

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Life is a lesson!

9.Address and acknowledge the lesson in inconvenient situations.

It’s important to remember that everything is a life lesson.

Everyone you meet, everything you encounter, etc. They’re all part of the learning experience we call ‚Äòlife.’ Never forget to acknowledge the lesson, especially when things don’t go your way.

If you don’t get a job you wanted or a relationship doesn’t work, it only means something better is out there waiting. And the lesson you just learned is the first step toward it. Over the next 21 days keep a written log of all the lessons life taught you.

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Always look on the bright side of life….

8.Concentrate on being positive at all times.

The real winners in life cultivate optimism. They have the ability to manufacture their own happiness and drive.

No matter what the situation, the successful diva is the woman who will always find a way to put an optimistic spin on it.

She knows failure only as an opportunity to grow and learn a new lesson from life.

People who think optimistically see the world as a place packed with endless opportunities, especially in trying times. Try to spend the next 21 days looking at the bright side of things.

It’s just a choice, you can choose to look at the obstruction or you can choose to look for the opportunity.

You can choose to always look on the bright side of life.

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Be Nice to people!

7.Treat everyone nicely, even those who are rude to you.

Being nice to someone you dislike doesn’t mean you’re fake. It means you’re mature enough to control your emotions.

Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you – not because they’re nice, but because you are.

Do this for 21 days and I guarantee you’ll see the rudeness around you dissipate.

Have a look at “The Guy in the glass!”

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