Rushing into December last year and in the run up to Christmas I had several people say to me “I just don’t know where this year has gone!” or “Time must be moving faster than ever!” or “There just aren’t enough hours in the day!” or derivations of these statements relating to time.
It got me thinking about why these people had the illusion of “Time passing quicker than ever!” Those of you that have been on one of my seminars or heard me speak at an event will know that I talk about our conscious mind. This part of our cognitive thought process can only effectively retain seven, plus or minus two things and most people are constantly trying to juggle a lot more things than that.
With all of the mediums of communication and the amount of information that is coming at us at every second of our waking day, (approximately 2 million bytes every minute) is it any wonder that our focus jumps from one thing to another and thereby creates the illusion that time is going faster. If we are not focused on the passage of time during whatever we are doing then that illusion is exaggerated. In order to slow it down we need to focus on one task at a time and be very aware of each moment.
Now then…. This may come as a shock to you, but we all have the same 24 hours in each day and each of those hours has 60 minutes and each of those minutes has 60 seconds, so why is it that some people get so much more done in there allocation of time?
“It’s not about time management, it is about task management!”
So here are 8 areas where your focus shouldn’t be;
- Distractions that keep you from special moments with special people. – Pay attention to the little things, because when you really miss someone you miss the little things the most, like just laughing together. Go for long walks. Indulge in great conversations. Count your mutual blessings. Let go for a little while and just BE together.
- Regrets of any kind. – You don’t have to be defined by the things you once did or didn’t do. Don’t let yourself be controlled by regret. Maybe there’s something you could have done differently, or maybe not. Either way, it’s merely something that has already happened. Leave the unchangeable past behind you as you give yourself to the present moment.
- Resentment. – Kindness is not to be mistaken for weakness, or forgiveness for acceptance. It’s about knowing that resentment is not on the path to happiness. Remember, you don’t forgive people because you’re weak. You forgive them because you’re strong enough to know that people make mistakes.
- Other people’s mistakes and oversights. – Be tolerant of people’s mistakes and oversights. Sometimes good people make bad choices. It doesn’t mean they’re bad; it simply means they are human. Open your mind before you open your mouth. Don’t hate what you don’t know. The mind is like a parachute; it doesn’t work when it’s closed.
- Trying to impress everyone. – One of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t have to like everyone, everyone doesn’t have to like us, and that’s perfectly OK. No matter how you live, someone will be disappointed. So just live your truth and be sure YOU aren’t the one who is disappointed in the end. Don’t take things too personally, even if it seems personal. Rarely do people do things because of you; they do things because of them. You honestly can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is change how you react and who you choose to be around. Remember SW,SW,SW! Some Will, Some Won’t, So What!
- People who are negative about your dreams. – It’s better to be lonely than allow negative people and their opinions derail you from your destiny. Don’t let others crush your dreams. Do just once what they say you can’t do, and you will never pay attention to their negativity again.
- The desire for everything you don’t have. – No, you won’t always get exactly what you want, but remember this: There are lots of people who will never have what you have right now. The things you take for granted, someone else is praying for. Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they already have.
- Every point in time other than right now. – Don’t cry over the past, it’s gone. Don’t stress too much about the future, it hasn’t arrived. Do your best to live NOW and make this moment worth living.
So there you have it… Stop speeding up time and enjoy the moment you are living in.
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