Your Life, Your Choice..

Each of us has two distinct choices to make about what we will do with our lives. The first choice we can make is to be less than we have the capacity to be. To earn less. To have less. To read less and think less. To try less and discipline ourselves less.

These are the choices that lead to an empty life. These are the choices that, once made, lead to a life of constant apprehension instead of a life of wondrous anticipation.

And the second choice? To do it all! To become all that we can possibly be. To read every book that we possibly can. To earn as much as we possibly can. To give and share as much as we possibly can. To strive and produce and accomplish as much as we possibly can. All of us have the choice To do or not to do. To be or not to be. To be all or to be less or to be nothing at all.

Like the tree, it would be a worthy challenge for us all to stretch upward and outward to the full measure of our capabilities. Why not do all that we can, every moment that we can, the best that we can, for as long as we can?

Our ultimate life objective should be to create as much as our talent and ability and desire will permit. To settle for doing less than we could do is to fail in this worthiest of undertakings.

Results are the best measurement of human progress. Not conversation. Not explanation. Not justification. Results! And if our results are less than our potential suggests that they should be, then we must strive to become more today than we were the day before.

The greatest rewards are always reserved for those who bring great value to themselves and the world around them as a result of who and what they have become.

Your life, your choice…

Ask a question

Questions are a critical component in the persuasion process. And there are a multitude of reasons why.

Firstly, questions enable you to gain someone’s attention. Have you ever noticed that when someone may be talking to you and going on and on and you find yourself in a position where you’re extremely bored that you can suddenly stop and begin paying attention the minute someone asks you a question?

The reason why is because questions put the other person on the defensive because they have to think of how they will answer your question and that serves two great purposes.

The first – which is the one that I just mentioned – is that they gain attention but secondly, is every time the other person has to stop and think of how to answer your question, it gives you the opportunity to stop and think about what you’re going to do next.

Questions also give the other person the ability to speak, which is one of the key aspects of the way people are wired. People simply love to hear themselves talk. In fact, most of the time they are waiting for you to finish speaking so that they can begin.

Every time you ask a question you open the door for them to speak about themselves and this will create a mood that makes them feel good about themselves. This gives you the opportunity to create rapport.

Questions are also of great way to keep a person engaged. I have found that one of the best ways to overcome situations where there’s an awkward silence is to begin asking the other person questions. Those questions could be about anything but I continue to ask questions every time I feel as though an awkward silent moment may occur and it will instantly break up the monotony.

Questions also help alleviate distractions. One of the critical rules in the influence process is keeping the other person engaged and distractions will work very much against that process taking place.

Therefore, it’s your responsibility to divert the other person attention from whateveris distracting them back to you so that they’re engaged. And you can easily do that with a question that is phrased tactfully enough.

One of the first things that you learn in sales is to ask questions at the beginning of your presentation because they enable you to get all of the objections out in the open so that you can overcome them initially, or prepare yourself to have to overcome them at a later time during the presentation.

Asking questions also will keep you in the driver seat because every time you ask a question and gain a response, you are in control.

You are evoking action in your target when you get them to answer your questions.

Always make sure you know exactly which questions you plan on asking and why. Asking a better question will get you a better response.